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When I wake up and she's not next to me, I realized that it's time for me to think of something big.

I told her lets get married by this year and her feedback is very positive.

After dating so many girls, this is the woman that believes in me. Guess what, the most important thing in a relationship is believe. She, someone who is fun, cool, smart and nice, can i get the same from others? I doubt that.

Good opportunities don't come often. I believe this is it. Should I wait? Shouldn't i?

Getting married is an opportunity to share and spread the love. Build a life from scratch. Ain't that something to look forward? Is life complete when u have money, big house, posh cars? Other people will have different views. For me, life is complete when I have met my soulmate. Someone that can be my lover and someone that can be my friend.

People always say our relationship is kind of funny and seems like a 'love-hate-relationship'. I told her that the most important thing in a relationship is to be true to oneself. Don't pretend to be nice or extra clingy if she's not. I even allow her to curse and yell when necessary. Maybe that's me. I am simple but sophisticated. Guess she can handle me after going through all the hardship in less than a year.

What I can see is, something is going to happen soon.

Will keep on updating about the next step soon...

These days, many marry for the wrong reasons. Some for money, some for power, some for love – or maybe lust? We decide on marriage based on JUST emotions & feelings – but who are we really? Imperfect human beings.

I always believe that yes – we must trust our feelings – but we must also never forget to seek for Allah’s guidance because HE knows what’s best for us. We always forget that, don’t we? We always forget the power of Allah. Always pray for the best for ourselves. InsyaAllah we will fall in love with THE one.

And when in doubt, in uncertainty, you may do solat istikharah:

Solat Istikharah

Seseorang yang menghadapi sesuatu soal yang bersifat mudah, sedang ia sendiri masih ragu-ragu mana sebaiknya dilakukan, maka di sunatkan mengerjakan solat yang bukan termasuk wajib.
Solat itu boleh saja di waktu mengerjakan sunat Rawatib atau Tahiyatul-masjid dan boleh pula di waktu malam atau pun siang, sedang bacaan sehabis Al-Fatihah dapat dipilih sekehendaknya. Setelah selesai solat sunat, bacalah doa ini:


"Ya Allah, saya memohonkan pilihan menurut pengetahuanMu dan memohonkan penetapan dengan kesuasaanMu juga saya memohonkan kurniaMu yang besar, sebab sesungguhnya Engkaulah yang Maha Mengetahui dan saya tidak mengetahui apa-apa. Engkau Maha Mengetahui segala yang ghaib. Ya Allah, jikalau di dalam ilmuMu bahawa …………. baik untukku dalam agamaku, kehidupanku serta akibat urusanku, maka takdirkanlah untukku dan mudahkanlah serta berikanlah berkah kepadaku di dalamnya. Sebaliknya jikala di dalam ilmumu bahawa urusan ini buruk untukku, dalam agamaku, kehidupan serta akibat urusanku, maka jauhkanlah hal itu daripadaku dan jauhkanlah aku daripadanya serta takdirkanlah untukku yang baik-baik saja dimana saja adanya, kemudian puaskanlah hatiku dengan takdirMu itu."

Many are worried of losing the one you’re currently in love with, but not to worry: if he’s not the right one for you , insyaAllah he will be brought far away from you, your feelings for him might slowly fade away too. If he’s the right one for you, you will feel it. You will be satisfied and sure of your decision. If still in doubt, do this solat every other day, until you’ve found the answer. God will guide your through your instincts and feelings - naluri dan perasaan. You will feel very calm with the guidance, insyaAllah.

Always put your faith in Allah – redha dengan ketentuanNya. Because like I said, HE knows best. Jodoh itu di tangan Tuhan :)

There is never a perfect relationship. There is never a two perfect person for each other. In any relationships, no matter how similar the partners are to each other, there will always be differences.

Each person is brought up differently by their parents; taught different values and go through different life experiences. All these, characterized an individual and make them who they are. Thus there are no such two individuals that will share the same principles,thinking or characteristics; not even any two siblings.

They say the first 3 months of a relationship, is called the honeymoon period. Some say its the first year of the relationship. During this phase, we seem to cherish all these differences. We stick to the saying that 'opposite attracts' and we laugh and joke at our differences. "At least, you're teaching me something new," we claim.

It is usually between that after that honeymoon period that we start realizing how these differences might interest us or quite the opposite, might start to irritate or annoy us. That is when tolerance come in place.

Couples survive relationships because they tolerate and sacrifice for each other. The minute you are selfish, and you start thinking of yourself, that is when you break up or divorce and go seperate ways.

You get to know a person, you start dating them, and then you start noticing the differences or the characters that irritate you. You tolerate some of them; the ones that you can bare with. And when you just cannot bare with any of his/her characteristics, because it is affecting your relationship and your emotions (i.e; him being too over-protective or her being a shopaholic for instance) you break up, date others and see if the next relationship might work out. The question here is, where is the limit? When do you decide that "I don't think this can work out anymore, not with this issue," When??


Because you see, when all these minor issues are manageable, you may decide to get married. Sometimes, you may decide to get married because you love your partner very much, and that you're willing to put the differences aside, no matter how big they are. When that happens, a whole new relationship starts all over again. New characters may appear. This time around, a much higher tolerance is needed.

In Islam, any married couple must put their 200% effort to make their marriage work as divorce is very much hated by Allah. So don't keep on living in denial and move on to marriage, when you know deep inside, that the relationship is too chaotic to work out well.

However bare in mind, that the decision to get married in the first place, is a gamble. There's no turning back. People change upon marriage. Thus, be choosy if you want to, then take your pick and enjoy the ride. Then on, don't forget du'a (doa) and prayers. With prayers insyaAllah, marriage becomes a hope. A hope of building a joyful family with your loved one, and go through whatever obstacles that may pass.

Some may choose to keep on looking until they've found the one that they know they can tolerate living the rest of their life with. Some may decide to get married to the one that they really love, and then learn to manage the differences later on in life. Whichever way, we cannot run away from having tolerances and sacrifices in relationships. If you choose to think of yourself, you might end up alone.