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Mommy with thumb-sucking Luqman

Luqman is a sucker! Like literally, a sucker. He sucks on everything his hands can grab on. Which is also something we need to be cautious about. Small tiny toys especially. 

He started sucking his thumb back when he was about 3 months. Initially I found it amusing and cute! Also like how he was independent enough to soothe himself.

Luqman sucks vigorously, like all the time! After a month or so, I noticed his thumbnail looking a little bumpy and got me a little worried that his fingernails will be permanently like that (because I have that too on both my thumbnails!) So, I decided to introduced him to the pacifier. 

To be honest, I really don't agree with both; pacifier or thumbsucking, but its like I had to choose the lesser evil. 

He love the pacifier the second I introduced him to it (duh-obviously you little sucker) and then about week, he forgot about his thumbsucking habit. And then this mommy worries about how to curb away this new habit (ha-ha). I tell myself "Oh I'll worry about that later," but you know, we just like to worry for no strong reason sometimes. "What about his teeth?" "Will he be jongang?" 

When he wakes up at night, I just look for the pacifier and put it in his mouth, and then he goes sucking it back to sleep. Of course, looking for the pacifier at night isn't really that easy. At that particular time, I wish he just sucks his thumb! 

This past week, it looks like he's probably teething because he's drooling and also feverish. Pacifier don't seem to help that much. I put the pacifier, he pulls it out and cry, or suck the other side of the pacifier. He sees mommy, and he wants mommy (manja-boy!) and pacifier just doesn't do the magic anymore.

Maybe sucking is just a phase? Maybe he will naturally curb the pacifier habit? 

But mommy needs him to suck that pacifier and just be quiet!

This mommy I tell you, is a confused, self-contradicting mom. LOL. 


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"I don't remember being this close to Aisya before, not when she was this small," Mr. told me one day.

I gotta agree. With my first born, the bonding was pretty strong. Maybe because it is that introduction to loving a child, that first love. Maybe because I was working as an employee, 9am-5pm daily, so when I reached home, we were both missing each other that much, so evenings and weekends, the three of us spent time together as a family, but Aisya always wanted Mummy.

But as we analyzed more, we realized that it's also because Aisya had my mom and Kak Nanny (mom's helper) to take care of her during those times we were working. And then after work, its mummy and Aisya's time. And Mr, never really spent that much time with her, although he tried, but Aisya just never really preferred him ( haha - kesian).  So Aisya's choice has always been Mummy, Tokma (grandma), Kak Nanny, and then only everyone else including her own dad. It is only later on when she reached almost two, that she became closer to Mr. and even much much closer now.

With baby Luqman, as you may have understand from my previous postings, its either me, or Mr. We took turns to take care of our kids. He experienced bathing him from small, changing his nappy, even knows what to put on his baby after bathing. And I can see, that he understands this little boy well. I could be busy replying emails, and then suddenly, Luqman is already asleep. He could predict if he's tired, or if he's hungry. He knows the trick to get him to sleep longer. In fact, this little boy can sleep easily while being carried by his dad as compared to his mummy.

Dad carrying baby
Luqman comfortably asleep on Mr's shoulder.

As for me, I don't even feel like I'm missing out at all. Because you know, thanks to breastfeeding, that bonding between a mother and a child will always be there. But I'm actually pretty happy to see that bond, and also happy that I get my space and my time to rest sometimes. It was fun with the first one, but to be honest, very tiring when you child always wants mummy.

And when we look at the situation again, it is not because Mr. had more time now, or because Aisya was taken care by my mom and her helper. But Mr. realized and agreed, that he didn't really make that much effort in trying to bond with his child, because he was afraid to handle such a fragile baby, and he didn't really know how to, and he just let the mummy handle it all because it's mummy's job. "Its not like the baby wants me pun,"

My point here is this. I know many reading this post are modern parents, where both, husbands and wives, are working to support the family. Some, husbands supporting the family financially more, some pretty equal, and some, even the wives bringing in more income than the husbands. If your partner can make that effort in sharing the reponsibility, it is only fair that you also share her responsibility too. Make that extra effort in taking care of your children. Make that extra effort to bathe them in the morning, to serve them breakfast, to soothe them when they're crying, to put them to sleep! Then only you will understand, not only the sacrifices of your wife, but also the sacrfices of your own mom. Then only you will understand your child better and bond with them better. Then only, you will see how well developed your child is.

Barulah jadik modern cool-daddy!



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You probably would have read in one of my recent posting here that we're both trying to work out taking care of the house and the kids together. Which means Mr. is also helping out with housework.

However ladies, please beware, getting your husbands helping out might also mean that he will say these.


While sweeping the floor:

"Hish, rambut you ni banyak nya gugur, better go and potong rambut je lah,"(postpartum- duh!)


While folding clothes: 

"Why don't you just wear the same baju tidur for a few nights?"

"Aisya, nanti lepas mandi, pakai je baju ni balik,"


While washing the dishes:

"I think we better makan dalam talam je lah! Senang, semua pakai satu pinggan je,"

"Okay, everyone drink from this one glass je. We share okay! Hah tak payah basuh banyak pinggan,"

"Next time, let's stick to just one dish per meal. Sayur ayam semua campur sekali in one dish. Tak payah banyak kena bersihkan, kan?"

Makan dalam talam

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Hahahahaha. Now you know what we mommies go through right?





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