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Aisya's been a little bit more cunning these days. We parents, need to learn and be smarter!

Last week, during Sheikh Zoubir's weekly classes, I learned something new.
You know how we can be very particular on which Mazhab we belong to, and we should stick to our Mazhab?

During class, a sister questioned, "Sheikh, in Makkah, the imaam does not recite Dua Qunut during subuh prayers. We as the Shafie Mazhab, do we have to do the two sajadahs after solat?"

"No, we must always follow the imaam.. "

"It seems that only the Shafie Mazhab recites the Dua Qunut during Subuh prayers. There are some that says that it is sunnat, so the two sajadahs after solat is not required?"

"In the Shafie Mazhab, dua qunut is sunnatul wajib, meaning if you don't do it, yes, do the two sajadahs (sujud sahwi). Please, just follow what you've been taught. But let's say, you forgot the two sajadahs, its okay. You're not sinning. "

At one point Sheikh said, "Do you know that all the mazhabs are all followers of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). They follow the sunnah, so there is no right or wrong mazhabs,"

The only problem lies within taa'sub followers, even to the extend that they set marriage only within the same mazhabs. We are all Muslims. And we follow the Quran and the practices of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

And then he shared a story about the companions of the Prophets, during the era of His living. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said to the companions "Do not pray Asar until you reach your destination,"

Halfway through the journey, the azaan came. Half of the troops stop and perform the asar prayers, following the prophet's advice on praying on time. The other half continued on and only prayed Asar upon reaching their destination. When the troops met Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), they asked Him, which act is right. And he said "Both are right, because both followed my advice,"

So, you see, even in that era, there's confusions between what's right and what's wrong... what more now, 1400 years after the Hijrah!

His advice: Always be open to the teaching of the different mazhabs. And accept the hadiths of the scholars. Imam Bukhari & Imam Muslims are scholars, 200 years after the era of imam of mazhabs. Be open and accept them all and don't be too taa'sub.

Note: Purely rephrasing and sharing what I learned from Sheikh during the class. I may understand differently. Please, don't quote him. 

Aisya's Current Age: 3 Years  Baby's Current Age: 29 weeks in womb 

I try to make it a habit to read before Aisya goes to sleep at night to wind her down and also to cultivate the reading habit. However these days, the pregnancy is really getting to me and by 10, I'm yawning away. So sometimes,  Mr. does the reading instead, which he can always last for 5 minutes tops!

You can really see how we're both different, coming from different ways of growing up. When I read the book, I will read each and every word, together with expression and intonation, showing the words as I read. Mr. on the other hand, will somehow skip certain sentences and then asks Aisya on the characters in the book, and then skip the stories and never finish the book! (taknak ikut peraturan ok!) Sometimes I question, why can't you just read the book as it is?

I think last night, he got bored of reading the same book again and again, he just closed the book and said "Okay Aisya, let me tell you a story instead,"

And then he started creating his own fairytale, with Aisya and mummy and ayah in the story, with the little baby coming, and then there's aeroplanes and horses and beaches and hotels. Aisya was mesmerized! Slowly dozzing off to sleep....

And then it hit me. My husband has always been a dramatic guy with a lot of stories and imaginations. He's a dreamer. He will always come out with random "Cuba you bayangkan...." moments with additional characters and all. Of course he would enjoy telling his stories instead of reading a storybook for his child! 

I don't think I'm a storyteller which is why it is easier if I just read the book to her. My impromptu storytelling may only last... say... 2 minutes? I'm the follow-by-the-book kinda person hehe. 

I'm glad that that happened yesterday. I'm glad that I realized now,  how our both different ways can help shape our child to be well-rounded insyaAllah. 

There really isn't a right or wrong way of parenting really.